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See me fall 🕳 ➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖ #2k20 #goat #like #comment #repost #follow #assertive #myoark #green #anklebully ➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖ Song: See me fall By: @roransom Ft: @kenseiabbot

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Never extinguish the fire and feistiness in your daughters heart. ⠀⠀⠀ What drives us up the f’n wall today, will be the tools she uses later on in life to not get pushed around. ⠀⠀⠀ Teach your daughters to worry less about fitting in glass slippers and more about shattering glass ceilings. ⠀⠀⠀ I want to raise my daughter to always believe she breathes fire. ⠀⠀⠀ For my Bray Bray 🔥 ⠀⠀⠀ #daughters #lifewithbray #mygirl #strong #assertive #bossbabe #love #momlife

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✨ THE DIVINE FEMININE & RAW VULNERABILITY ✨ → Are you comfortable with being seen in your vulnerability? → Are you comfortable with expressing the truest parts of yourself with another? I’m not going to sugarcoat it, vulnerability can be scary. 😖 Allowing yourself to be seen in the rawest of your expressions, the rawest of your emotions can feel like a massive hurdle for many of us. For centuries, women have been told that we need to dull ourselves down. That we are ‘too much’ if we express what we’re really feeling… ❌ Our emotions are too much. ❌ Our mood swings are too much. ❌ Our feelings are too much. We are afraid that if we were to show these parts of ourselves to others, we’ll be deemed ‘too much’ and be rejected. And this is the fear that we come up against when we start to express how we really feel, who we really are on a soul level. 💜 The divine feminine understands that her emotions are true and valid, no matter whether or not they are accepted or validated by others. The Divine Feminine is not afraid to wear her heart 💗 on her sleeve, because she knows that in this authentic expression it allows others - particularly the masculine - to rise to witness, to deepen in their own expressions and to receive her. The Divine Feminine is able to hold herself through the vulnerability and the discomfort because she knows that is what unconditional self love is. Does being vulnerable make you feel anxious?   Let me know below. 🔽 #TheRadiantQueen #RadiantHeart #RadiantWomen #wealthalchemy   #tarotreadersofinatagram #oraclecommunity #assertive #selfesteemboost #happytohelp #youarevalid #vulnerabilityisstrength #upliftwomen #acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy #radicalacceptance #traumahealing #breathwork #livenow #tappingtherapy #tappingsounds #efttapping #limitlesspotential #motivationstation #lifecoachtraining #evolveandsucceed #certifiedcoach

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The secret to success is resiliency. These are my top tips for building resiliency & the key to them all is to start asking yourself the right questions. 🥀Negative questions will get you negative answers and therefore negative results. 🌹Positive ones will get you (you guessed it ) positive results. 👉🏽Independent of what happens to you. I truly believe that life is 10% what happens to you and 90% what you do with it. 2 people can come from the same family and end in totally different places. It is that self talk in the middle of it all that makes the difference. 💫🙏 🌱1. Instead of asking powerless questions like, "Why is this happening TO me?" Ask”How is this happening for me.” Or ,"What can I learn from this?" 🌱2. Discover what actions💪🏽 you can take right now to improve the situation. 🌱3. Ask yourself what are your greatest strengths and how can you use them to your advantage? Maybe you are able to look towards the positive, or able to relate or help others. 🌱4. Then figure out how you can use this situation to add value to others. 💫The most rewarding part of life is giving back to the world. You will find the most joy when doing this. 💫 🌱5. Then use all of this to get creative in order to find a solution. You'll be surprise how much better life will be BECAUSE of the storm if you use this strategy. ☝🏽And remember friend, you never know who is watching you weather the storm. You will either be a ray of light ☀️ or a cloud of darkness ⛅️ for someone. 👉🏽Even those who you don't see, see you. . . . . . . . . . . . #quotegram #mindstrong #mindovermedicine #knowyourwhy #brendonburchard #assertive #capabilities #overwhelmedmom #overwhelming #yourbestlife #getunstuck #livingyourbestlife #changealife #selfrecovery #mentalcare #guilt #smallbusinessyyc #itspersonal #smallbusinessnz #homebusinesssuccess #letstalkmentalhealth #movecenter #healthymindset

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How do you know you're a people pleaser? . I've had a bunch of people reach out to me since my last post about how to know if you're actually a people pleaser VERSUS someone who is just considerate/nice. This is such an important distinction. Being a people pleaser typically means that your primary intention is to please the needs of others, even when it means that you are sacrificing your own needs/experiences. Being considerate/nice is taking into account the experiences of others, while at the SAME time considering your own needs and experiences. You are wanting to take in the full picture. The impact of each approach is also unique- when we are focused on people-pleasing, we oftentimes feel resentful, guilty, undervalued, anxious, sad, etc. When we are considerate/nice, we will likely feel more grounded in our decisions (however uncomfortable ) AND compassionate and connected to others. . There may be times that you intentionally decide to please the needs of others (for whatever reason ), but that is different from consistently and frequently doing so when it is impacting your quality of life. Swipe right for some reflection questions to increase your understanding of your approach and the impact it has on you and your relationships. . . #drsheva #drshevaassar #psychologistsofinstagram #CApsychologist #mentalhealth #orangecounty #livenewportbeach #sharesocal #thoughtprovoking #positivevibesonly #emotionalsupport #youmatter #soanxbutterfly #relationalwellness #relationallywell #socialanxiety #socialanxietyprobs #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasernomore #peoplepleasingsyndrome #anxiety #anxietyfree #perfectionism #anxiusmind #anxietymanagement #fearless #anxietyfree #mentalhealthawareness #assertive #empoweredwoman

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Never compromise your intellect for their ego. Pay careful attention to the jobs, churches and organizations you endorse- what are their thoughts on women in leadership? #notirrelevant #rightfulplace #assertive #womeninleadership

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Where is that bin when we need it? You don't have to please all of the people all of the time, or spend too much time considering contrary advice when your decision feels right for you. Try one of these responses, then use that bin ..... "Thank you, this is working for me". "I'm glad that worked for you". "That's an interesting perspective" "I appreciate your concern" @sasa_elebea #randomopinions #differentperspectives #unsolicitedadvice #decisions #advice #unwantedadvice #communicationskills #assertive #assertiveness #cloudberryclinic #clinicalpsychology #clinicalpsychologist

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"I am not an angel,' I asserted; 'and I will not be one till I die: I will be myself. " Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte #thisIsme #me #selfie #summer #august #2020 #janeeyre #charlottebronte #classic #assertive #confident #conservative #NotaFeminist #fierce #opinionated #reading #books #history #nerd #lioness #instagood #gorgeous #wife #aunt #sister #daughter #friend

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When you are assertive, you are honest, direct, and sincere and treat other persons as equal and valuable. You also show respect for their rights, as well as your own. When you act assertively, you send the message that you are a worthwhile, confident person who knows her rights, recognizes her wants and needs, and is able to set boundaries. You feel empowered, proud and in control, and your self-esteem will soar.

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“The quickest way to acquire self-confidence is to do exactly what you are afraid to do." - Anon So simple yet so hard! The hardest time is always the first time, and then you can look forward to continuous improvements. Confidence to ask for what you want, confidence to defend your point of view, confidence to say no, confidence to confront someone, confidence to be yourself in front of others. #assertiveway #confidence #womensinspire #quotesaboutlife #beyourbestself #empower_people #empoweringwomen #empower #TruthMatters #authentic #communicate #beyourbestself #assertiveness #assertive #confidence #confident #womenempowerment #womancrusheveryday #womaninbizhour #empower_people #empowerment #Courage #assertiveway #confidenceisbeautiful #assertivecommunication #confidentwomen #empoweringquotes #empoweringwomennow

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Cycle of Avoidance: when we avoid tasks that make us feel anxious and get that feeling of *temporary* relief, but ultimately the anxiety grows bigger. ⠀ Social anxiety is a good example of this, when we avoid social situations (or have to because of quarantine ) it can increase anxiety the next time we are confronted with a social situation. The best way to cope is to jump out of this cycle as soon as possible!

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Self compassion does not equal being passive, or not caring. Self compassion just means that you aren’t beating the crap out of yourself for your mistakes. We can be ambitious and compassionate. #compassion #innercritic #ambitious #shame

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Dorland's Medical Dictionary defines assertiveness as a form of behavior characterized by a confident declaration of a statement; this supports the person's rights or point of view without either aggressively threatening the rights of another or submissively permitting another to ignore or deny one's rights or point of view. Here are five tips on how you can be more assertive: 1. Use statements that start with “I” like “I want”, “I need”, “I believe”. This sounds confident, factual and assertive. 2. Avoid word choices that undervalue what you are saying. Rather than “I could be wrong” say “I believe”. Instead of “This might sound crazy” say “I have a novel idea!”. 3. Change your verbs to sound more assertive. “Could”, “should”, “might” “may” are not assertive, but “will” is a better choice. 4. Use “when … I feel” statements to let people know how their behavior is affecting you. For example, you can say: “When toy don’t listen to me, I feel disrespected”. 5. Make your boundaries clear. When you are assertive you state the facts, you don’t apologise and you don’t over explain. For example you can say: “I can meet you on Wednesday but Thursday isn’t good for me”. For more follow @nextdoorpsychologists #psychology #quotes #quoteoftheday #psychotherapie #psychotherapist #psychologyfacts #psychologist #psychotherapy #therapist #therapy #clinicalpsychology #clinicalpsychologist #wellbeing #wellness #mindfullness #mindful #mind #innerpeace #mentalhealth #mentalillness #feelings #emotionalhealth #emotionalintelligence #assertive #assertiveness #ψυχολογία #ψυχολογος #κλινικηψυχολογια #ψυχικηυγεια

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What happens when we intellectualize our emotions? Here are some thoughts... 1. This #defensemechanism deflects from what we are actually feeling. 2. It keeps us from asserting ourselves and asking for what we want/need in relationships. 3. It keeps those whom we love at a distance (when what we really want is #closeness and #intimacy ) 4. The pain or discomfort never gets processed or resolved. 5. As a result, we continue to build walls and avoid deep connections with others AND ourselves. It’s understandable to be logical and even to consider the other persons’ perspective or point of view but if we fail to express or acknowledge how something makes us feel, instead of feeling heard, seen or understood, we end up feeling #dismissed and #undervalued . This is not conducive to strengthening relationships or our own understanding of what the discomfort means for us. It’s time to give your emotions the space they deserve - to be seen, heard and understood. • • • • • #leanintothediscomfort #bevulnerable #emote #vulnerabilityisstrength #connectwithyourself #listentoyouremotions #counselorsofinstagram #mentalhealthmatters #relationaltherapy #therapyisforeveryone #emotionsmatter #emotions #assertyourself #assertive #communication #denver #colorado #therapyforteens #therapyformillennials #therapyforall #mentalhealthishealth #copingstrategies #beseen #beheard #beloved

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Ladies be you #strong #woman #toomuchtohandle #headstrong #beautiful #independent #bossy #assertive #black and don't let anyone make you feel less for being amazing.

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Losing patience? Me. The. Fuck. Too. 🙄 Here is the thing about patience, when you have a lot of patience you might be labeled as a “pushover”. 🙃 When you have the minimum amount of patience you could be labeled as “insensitive”. 🤷‍♀️ Well I’m right smack in the middle lately. Which I think just makes me “assertive”. 💪🏻🤓😏. What about you? Would you say you’re a pushover, insensitive or assertive? #patience #assertive #boundaries #askamanda #assertiveasfuck #femalequotient

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Have you ever wondered why people hesitate to share what they are really thinking? ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I’ll tell you why. For starters, the standard reason is, “They won’t understand.” Which may or not be true. The actual fear is that people don’t want the “misunderstanding to turn into a conflict.” Because more often than not, it does. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I keep saying this, “When there is lack of mutual understanding, it leads to a misunderstanding, which leads to a conflict.” ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Here's the best way to ensure it leads to a common understanding & doesn’t lead to a conflict. ⁣⁣ Context: Setting the context sets up the listener to receive what you are saying in the way you want them to. It prepares them to “take it in the right way. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Communicating a Clear Intention: ”Being clear and specific your intention also controls the outcome to a large extent. This removes a lot of fluff which may⁣ happen due to the “war of words”. The conversation is objective driven rather than emotional. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Acknowledging Emotions: Stating out the emotions both parties are feeling, also helps. It's like stating the obvious. No more reason to justify it. So makes it an even playing field. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Clarifying expectations from both sides: Being clear about what you want & expect, & vice versa also helps to make the conversation transparent.⁣ ⁣ Ask Questions: Asking a lot of questions to evaluate understanding from both sides also helps a lot. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ This takes practice no doubt. But it is also a method which can be used to convey what you want in an assertive manner, rather than bottling things up, and becoming resistant. That conflict is worse. So go out there, and communicate. The fear of conflict is an even bigger conflict. ⁣ ⁣ #communication #management #communications #socialcommunication #conflictmanagement #communication_skills #communicationskillstraining #leadershipskills #communicationskills #truth #myths #secrets #empoweringothers #comunications #comunicationskills #contextual #contexto #contextclues #spoilerswithoutcontext #context #managementtraining #communicationskillsdevelopment #expectation #assertive #assertivecommunication #emotions #assertivenessskills #fear #overcoming #understandingy

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Self-motivation & Assertiveness: Day 3⠀ ⠀ Today’s focus is on ‘assertiveness.’ 🙌⠀ ⠀ Assertiveness is a social skill that allows us to communicate respectfully, yet effectively.⠀ ⠀ ❓Were there times when you wanted to tell someone off due to their actions, but chose to ignore it? ⠀ ⠀ While ignoring someone could deescalate a situation, there's a possibility of it happening again. So what should we do then? ⠀ ⠀ Be assertive!⠀ ⠀ However, there always seemed to be a misclassification of ‘assertiveness’ as ‘aggressiveness.’ Assertiveness is not a negative form of self-expression. An assertive individual is mindful of their use of language and the tone of their voice. ⠀ Assertiveness provides a sense of balance in our lives, because we present our needs to the fore, while considering the needs of other people. ⠀ ⠀ But how does one obtain assertiveness?⠀ ⠀ Firstly, it’s important that we ‘think first before reacting.’ This action prevents us from aggressively addressing someone. Next, replace the word ‘You’ with the word ‘I.’ Beginning statements with ‘I’ removes the blame from the receiver, prohibiting the conversation from becoming argumentative. ⠀ ⠀ ⚠️Finally, PRACTICE! PRACTICE! PRACTICE! Becoming assertive could take some time, so we shouldn’t feel discouraged if difficulties occur. But, by continuously practicing, we’ll soon find ourselves mastering the skill.⠀ ⠀ ❓What factors hold you back from being assertive? Tell us below👇🧡⠀ ⠀ ---⠀ #luicommunity #letsunpackitco #mentalwellness #mentalhealthsupport #emotionalwellness #emotionalhealth #selfmotivation #selfmotivationiskey #selfmotivationisthebestmotivation #selfmotivated #selfmotivator #intrinsicmotivation #motivateyourself #tryingtostaymotivated #motivateyourmind #staymotivated #assertive #assertiveness #assertivecommunication #standyourground #beassertive #growthanddevelopment #letsunpackit #inthistogether #togetherness #happiness #protectyourmentalhealth #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthmatters #healthylifestyle

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Reposted from @alyssamariewellness This a spin from the previous post on Symptoms of Trauma That We See vs Symptoms of Trauma That We Don't See. Many of the symptoms of depression are invisible (ruminative thoughts, belief that things will never get better, cognitive restriction ). Are there other symptoms you can think of that people don't normally recognize are part of depression?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #communication #communicationskills #istatements #healthyrelationships #assertive #assertivecommunication #recovery #traumarecovery #emdrtherapy #selflove #radicalselflove #selfacceptance #mentalhealthawareness #depressionrecocery #mentalhealthadvocate #alyssamariewellness #attachmentstyles #innerchildwork #anxiety #socialanxiety #suicideprevention

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What is that ONE thing you know so well which someone would love to learn from you? Comment below! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #communication #communicationskills #istatements #healthyrelationships #assertive #assertivecommunication #selflove #radicalselflove #selfacceptance #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthadvocate #3seconds #innerchildwork #knowledgeispower #knowyourworth #realitycheck #dailyinspo

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. I would like to make fun plans with you, but then just do ordinary things; or plan ordinary things but find we have stepped through a wardrobe into a world of ordinary magic... (WH Lewis ) #ordinarymagic #dailyadventure . . . #infjlife #infjproblems #infjstruggles #INFJA #Advocate #Assertive #lifejourney #lifepassion #lifepurpose #purposedrivenlife #growinginlove #livingnotexisting #unchartedspace #independentwoman #strongwoman #lovequotes #lovepoems #hopelessromantic #incurableromantic

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Avoid people who seek to destroy or silence who you are💎dust yourself off and #ShineYourLight 💫 🟤 🟤 🟤 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . #Strong #Passionate #Assertive #Hopeful #Influencer #Persuader #PersonalityTypes #Leader #PowerOfPositivity #PositiveDelight #SelfLoveQuotes #SelfHelp #PraiseBreak #EquippedToEdify

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Are you ready for a #change ? Maybe you should get a certified coach. Find us at ICFSacramento.org . #ICFSacramento #Thrive #Coach #ICF #ICFGlobal #Assertive #Passion

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The opinion of somone doesnt define you. Its just an opinion. What other people think of you, is just that, their thoughts and perceptions, and that does not equals your perception. If it doesnt resonate as your truth, its not, and you dont have to buy into it, just because another one say "such and such" to you or about you. Ok? Ok! 🙌🌞 If you struggle with this, let Earth wisdom be a little help along the way! 🥳😎🌍 PS. This doesnt equals you as arrogant. It equals that you know yourself, who you are, and what you stand for, and if someone tries to push their opinions onto you, or give you "advice" you did not ask for, its 100% ok to say no thanks, or adress your opinions back, agree to disagree, or just observe, unengage, and walk away. DS. #integrity #assertive #knowthyself #healthyboundaries

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"THIS EVENING" Today’s Topic: Sex & Intimacy Producer & Host: Amir Lahijy Special Guest: Q. What is the difference between sex and intimacy? Q. What do you suggest for single people during covid? @amirlahijy @payamkade_phd @togethernessmedia @hellohollywoodtv @beverlyhills_lifestyle @fashion .in.la.tv.show Copyright © 2020 by Togetherness Media LLC. . . . . . Copyright © 2020 by Togetherness Media LLC. #Psychology #LifeImprovement #TogethernesMedia #togetherness #together #TogethernessTV #studio #onlinetv #tvforall #QuarantineTime #Sexuality #SEX #MakingLove #Love #Intimacy #empathy #authenticity #compassion #assertive #balance #IntellectualBalance #joy #Kindness #trustworthiness #respect #PureLove #RomanticLove #PurePureGiving #Loveable

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[read that again] . you matter. 〰️Lindsey @ Method

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#tbt As people-pleasers, we may tend toward being too passive. This is because we struggle with saying “no”. We are agreeable and end up compromising our own needs to make others happy. This prevents us from being truly understood because we are suffocating so much of who we are. Keeping those feelings inside or tiptoeing around conflict can be stressful. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Assertive communication is a healthy way to communicate. It is direct, calm, and respectful. It allows us to feel understood without hurting or violating the rights of others. By communicating assertively, we get our needs met, we show respect for ourselves, and ultimately have better relationships with others. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Note: assertive communication is different from aggressive communication. Aggressive communication consists of yelling, rude gestures, threats, or intimidation. It is important to understand that we do not have to be loud and arrogant in order to be heard. #assertiveness #communication

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This a spin from the previous post on Symptoms of Trauma That We See vs Symptoms of Trauma That We Don't See. Many of the symptoms of depression are invisible (ruminative thoughts, belief that things will never get better, cognitive restriction ). Are there other symptoms you can think of that people don't normally recognize are part of depression?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #communication #communicationskills #istatements #healthyrelationships #assertive #assertivecommunication #couples #couplestherapy #couplescounseling #recovery #traumarecovery #shermanoakstherapist #emdrtherapy #selflove #radicalselflove #selfacceptance #mentalhealthawareness #depressionrecocery #mentalhealthadvocate #alyssamariewellness #attachmentstyles #innerchildwork #anxiety #socialanxiety

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Catastrophic thinking is a cognitive distortion where we assume the worst case scenario (without any evidence suggesting that the scenario in our minds is the case ). We all engage in catastrophic thinking as humans, however, people who experience anxiety experience catastrophic thinking at a more frequent rate. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Strategies for challenging catastrophic thinking include asking yourself: What is the best case scenario? What is the worst case scenario? What is the most likely scenario?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #communication #communicationskills #istatements #healthyrelationships #assertive #assertivecommunication #couples #couplestherapy #couplescounseling #recovery #traumarecovery #shermanoakstherapist #emdrtherapy #selflove #radicalselflove #selfacceptance #mentalhealthawareness #depressionrecocery #mentalhealthadvocate #alyssamariewellness #attachmentstyles #innerchildwork #anxiety #socialanxiety

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Personalization is a very common cognitive distortion where we a ) blame ourselves for things that are not our fault / assume that peoples' negative behaviors are because of us. b ) assume that we are being targeted *for ex: if your work creates a new attendance policy you assume it is because of the one time you were late* ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Of course there are nuances to all of this, however, here is an infographic to demonstrate the first type of personalization mentioned (assuming that we are responsible for peoples' behaviors ). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #communication #communicationskills #istatements #healthyrelationships #assertive #assertivecommunication #couples #couplestherapy #couplescounseling #recovery #traumarecovery #shermanoakstherapist #emdrtherapy #selflove #radicalselflove #selfacceptance #mentalhealthawareness #depressionrecocery #mentalhealthadvocate #alyssamariewellness #attachmentstyles #innerchildwork #anxiety #socialanxiety

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This exact thing happened to me today, and I reacted exactly this way. It’s good to put a name to what I did. @alyssamariewellness Personalization is a very common cognitive distortion where we a ) blame ourselves for things that are not our fault / assume that peoples' negative behaviors are because of us. b ) assume that we are being targeted *for ex: if your work creates a new attendance policy you assume it is because of the one time you were late* ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Of course there are nuances to all of this, however, here is an infographic to demonstrate the first type of personalization mentioned (assuming that we are responsible for peoples' behaviors ). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #communication #communicationskills #istatements #healthyrelationships #assertive #assertivecommunication #couples #couplestherapy #couplescounseling #recovery #traumarecovery #shermanoakstherapist #emdrtherapy #selflove #radicalselflove #selfacceptance #mentalhealthawareness #depressionrecocery #mentalhealthadvocate #alyssamariewellness #attachmentstyles #innerchildwork #anxiety #socialanxiety #asafeplaceinsideyourhead

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